I decided to share my “Path Mindset”. The “Path Mindset” is partially based on Abraham Maslow’s (1954) theory on Self-Actualization. Maslow studies were conducted about the most successful people in the world from past to present and his theory is still widely used by many successful people today. Here is my adaptation aptly named “Path Mindset”:
1. BE WILLING TO CHANGE – Begin with asking yourself “Am I living in a way that is deeply satisfying to me and which truly expresses me?” If not, be prepared to make changes in your life to match your identity. Ask yourself this question often and accept the need for continual change because as we progress through life we grow and change naturally. It is up to you the direction you wish to head.
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY – You can become an architect of yourself by acting as if you are personally responsible for every aspect of your life. Shouldering responsibility in this way helps end the habit of blaming others for your own shortcomings. This is not an easy thing to do but it will help you be more fulfilled for your successes.
3. EXAMINE YOUR MOTIVES – Self-discovery involves an element of risk. if most of your behavior is led by a want to play it safe or secure, it may be time to test the limits of your needs and desires. Try to make each decision a choice for growth not a selection controlled by fear, or anxiety.
4. EXPERIENCE DIRECTLY & HONESTLY – Wishful thinking is another barrier of success. You must experience your own trials and tribulations otherwise you can block your growth. Self Actualizers trust in themselves enough to except all kinds of information without distorting it to fit their fears and desires. Try to see yourself as others do. Be willing to admin “I was wrong” or “I failed because of me”. Make sure you do not quit but rather learn from the experience.
5. USE YOUR POSITIVE EXPERIENCES – Successful experiences are temporary moments of self-actualization. Therefore, you might actively repeat actvities that you are good at…ones that cause awe, amazement, exaltation, renewal, humility, reverence, fulfillment, and happiness. This will allow you to get into state easier and will make you enjoy the process of your task.
6. BE PREPARED TO BE DIFFERENT – I feel that everyone has a potential for “greatness” but most fear becoming what they might. As part of personal growth, be willing to trust you impulses and feelings; don’t automatically judge yourself by the standards of others. Accept you uniqueness and love that you are different from anyone else on this planet.
7. GET INVOLVED – I found with few exceptions that self-actualizers tend to have a path in life. For these people, “work” is not done just for your own basic needs but rather to satisfy higher yearnings for truth, beauty, love, brotherhood, and meaning. Make it a goal to personally get involved and committed. Turn your attention to problems outside yourself. This will help your social circle grow, and make you a better person.
8. ASSESS YOUR PROGRESS – Since there is no final point at which we become perfect, it is important to gauge your own progress frequently and renew your efforts consecutively. If you become or feel bored in your approaches challenge yourself to greater heights. Otherwise you have not shouldered responsibility for your own growth. Remember that almost ANY activity can become a chance for self-improvement if it is approached in a creative way.